Are you strong? Are you independent? Are you ridiculously tired right now?
I feel you. I get like that too.
From someone who works in the advertising field, my dear reader, I can assure you that I feel you. There are some days when I cry myself to sleep thinking “well… you wanted to be a strong independent woman, right? ¡Tú, y tu bocota!” Sometimes, I think that if it wasn’t because I have an amazing husband, I would have given up and found myself a rich one already so that I could spend my days drinking piña coladas by the pool without a worry in the world. Also, I just wasn’t raised this way, so I guess we’re gonna have to skip that option, no matter how amazing it sounds from time to time.
I must admit that feeling like this made me feel guilty in the past. I mean, like… what would my parents think if they heard these thoughts? What would my friends and our society think of me? Everyone expects so much from us, women, especially now in the female empowerment era, that burnout is just unacceptable. We can’t stop.
Or can we?
Last year, I went through a pretty tough time at work. It was very chaotic and even toxic. I would come home so freaking tired, that I didn’t have any energy left to live my life. Think about this. I spent most of my awake hours working my butt off, and then, I came home to pass out until the next day and start again. What a way to live life, huh?
Surprisingly, I was too proud to admit that I was tired as hell. I mean. My mind, my body and my spirit were screaming “I WANNA GO TO BED” all day long, but I just couldn’t. I couldn’t. I felt like I had to prove that I was capable of doing everything, and more. Because, that’s the whole point, right? Showing that we can.
Well, it wasn’t until I was right about to have a nervous breakdown that I decided to stop for a second and re-evaluate what was going on. I realized that the world wasn’t gonna end if I took a break and was gentler with myself. It didn’t mean that I was taking a break from being awesome, I still was. It just was something necessary, and that was something I finally understood then.
We push ourselves so hard sometimes that we forget how important it is to slow down as well. Resting is key. Just like any machine, we need to unplug from time to time to restart and work faster and more efficient. It is okay to take a break when you don’t wanna be a strong independent woman. That happens some days. It is totally fine if you take some time to just relax and reconnect with yourself. To meditate, to figure out if what you’re doing and where you are feels right. You should actually make this mandatory. Let’s make it a new rule, shall we?
In a world that’s so demanding and that is expecting so much from you, it is okay to take a step back when you feel like you need it. It’s not only courageous but will help you create a balance that will actually make you stronger and capable of anything.
Remember that story of the lumberjack who was in a competition and thought he was gonna win by working non-stop, only to be beat by the one who took a break once in a while? Well, I hope that you do. And if you don’t, ask around and see if anyone knows it. It’s a good one. I promise. And it’s helped me during crazy busy times. Life is just like that. Sometimes, we work super hard and by the time we reach our goals, we’re so done that we don’t even get to enjoy them. It might feel like it would take us a little longer if we stop or take little breaks, but even if it does, you’ll have enough energy to really appreciate what you’ve achieved when you do it like that.
So, if you’re reading this because you’re feeling this way right now, please understand that this doesn’t mean that you’re weak or anything like that. It just means that you need to do something different.
Go take a hike, pet a puppy, meet with good friends, call your mom. Do whatever makes you feel like yourself again. And I assure you, that missing feeling of wanting to be strong and independent will come back.
Content courtesy of Samantha Villavicencio, Founder of LlevoTuLuz, a platform that celebrates the beauty of Venezuela and its remarkable women who “take their Venezuelan spark” with wherever they go, and the Founder and CCO of MindfulBrands Creative, a studio focused on helping conscious brands grow.
Contributing Author, Samantha Villavicencio
Hi! My name is Sam, and I’m a creative soul, a music lover, a chocolate addict, a photography enthusiast and a tree drawer, established in Los Angeles, California. I’m also the creator of LlevoTuLuz, a platform that celebrates the beauty of Venezuela and its remarkable women who “take their Venezuelan spark” with wherever they go, and the Founder and CCO of MindfulBrands Creative, a studio focused on helping conscious brands grow.
Professionally speaking, I was trained as a Social Media Creative, a hybrid between an Art Director, a Copywriter, a Producer and a Community Manager for all things Social. I’m involved in all the social media creative process, from coming up with ideas, to bringing them to life. I write copy, take and edit photographs in-house, create cool designs, shoot and edit videos in-house (short videos, time-lapses, stop-motions, GIFs), and supervise and Art-Direct everything social-media-creative-related whenever it involves bigger productions. I’m passionate about branding, advertising and design, about learning new things, visiting new places, taking photographs, finding new adventures, listening to music, attending to concerts, theater plays and exhibitions. I am passionate about art, life and revolution – I’m a big fan of revolution. I plan to become the president of Venezuela one day, but while that time comes, I want to help the world become a more beautiful, harmonious place with the power of visuals and words that promote positive change. I feel lucky and blessed to be where I am, and I want to share all the good karma I receive by doing what I do best; creating beautiful things.